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I haven't really posted a ton here (or anywhere, for that matter..) about pregnancy and how things are going. I never want to whine and bitch about aches and pains and make it seem as if I am ungrateful or less-than-thrilled to be pregnant, because I've been on the other side and I know how shitty it is to read those things when you'd give anything to be in that position.

And I also never want to make anyone panic over something that isn't worth panicking over.

With that said, everything is going AMAZINGLY WELL. I go in for ultrasounds at minimum every 2 weeks, where they have been doing measurements, mostly to confirm fluid levels and looking at bladders and heartbeats, but all have been just fine.

At about 13 weeks, we had a little "scare" when they were measuring the babies and "A" was measuring a week behind baby "B". The ridiculous part of this is that they had always measured a few days apart, A was curled up, and B was sprawled out. Think that might affect things, ultrasound lady? Derp. They came in going on and on about Twin To Twin Transfusion (nothing we hadn't heard before) and that I needed to come in a in a week for a re-measurement to confirm if there was/wasn't a problem. I wasn't concerned (and the doctor seemed mind boggled by this when I had zero reaction to the news) because of the above reasons and knowing I was seeing Nichole (ultrasound tech extraordinaire!) the next day.

The next day, Nichole did her scan and they were in fact only a few days apart (as they had been all along), and confirmed to be both girls. HOORAY!!

At about 16 weeks (2-3 weeks ago?) I woke up to some pretty nasty pelvic pain, called the nurses line, and was advised to come into triage to be checked out. The doctor confirmed it was nothing but normal pregnancy "round ligament pain" and that I could go home, take a warm bath, pop some tylenol, and there wasn't much else you could do about it. Totally worth the 2.5 hour wait, thanks dudes! ;P The biggest concern for me was that babies were okay though, not necessarily "fix the pain". As much of an annoyance as the pain is, I can handle a little discomfort for babies.

We took awhile, but babies got NAMED! We had separate "lists" (mine was actually a list, Kyle's was kinda just in his head) and went with the names that overlapped, and the middle names are our mom's middle names. I'm not sure which is which yet or how we'll determine that, but they are Alyssa Jean and Kaylee Rae! The easiest way is just to give "A" the name Alyssa, but.. we'll see. :)

So... that's where we are today. Still experiencing some crummy pelvic pain, which I'm 100% certain is both round ligament pain AND pubic symphysis diastasis, but.. it's manageable. I'm seeing my chiropractor (lol my boss) regularly to be sure to keep my hips in alignment to help with it, but not a whole lot else that can be done about it anyways. I'm hoping to get a massage (trade!) set up sometime in the next week to relieve it a bit too.

Next week (20 weeks!!?!) is the official anatomy scan, where we'll be told for realsies by Tricare that the babies are girls (because they haven't told us anything yet, lol). While I'm there (or, at the next OB appointment the next week?) I have to harass them to let us schedule our prenatal classes early and get them all taken care of in March while Kyle is on leave, because after March his schedule will be up in the air and change for certain.

During the month of March, we will get to work on nursery stuff (painting! arranging! putting the clothes and stuff away!) which is super exciting and fun, or at least, it is for me who will be sitting there saying what to do because I can't lift or move anything. ;)

I found a venue for the baby shower (because lets be honest, my mom and planning don't go well together) - there is a parks & rec building in Auburn that is only $30/hr and is at a park, and I'm hoping to get that planned for the last weekend of April. Anytime after that especially, we're at a higher risk of potential bed rest and then early labor... so.. I'd rather get it done a little early. ;) It is more centrally located than trying to do it in Bremerton, but I know it isn't in Seattle.. so... sorry. :P

But ZOMG you guys, BABIES ARE COMING! Hopefully not until June.. but.. it's flying by.

And required baby picture:

Date: 2013-02-22 03:05 pm (UTC)
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Wow! It's going by SO FAST!!!!

Date: 2013-02-22 06:16 pm (UTC)
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i keep thinking at some point its going to slow down to a halt and feel like it's not moving at all, but nope.. so far, full speed ahead. egads!

Date: 2013-02-22 06:15 pm (UTC)
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bebbehs are size of mangos or something this week. BIG BEBBEHS!

Date: 2013-02-22 05:07 pm (UTC)
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I love that everything is coming along so well! ! (and that you have pink on the background of the ultrasound pictures..nice touch!)
I had that pain with Kyle, because it was my first. I think it's like your hips widening or something. It's definitely the kind of thing that you can't ignore because it's just so....THERE. I don't remember it with a pregnancy after that.

Keith always measured a few days bigger than Kevin and in fact was born 1 1/2 lbs BIGGER and Kevin seems to always been emotionally and physically about a year behind. Mentally, though..that kid is beyond any of them. Of course, we didn't have the threat of twin-to-twin transfusion since they aren't identical, it just always fascinated me that they grew in there at the same time and yet can be so different.

Keep moving along, girl. You are doing AMAZING!

Date: 2013-02-22 06:19 pm (UTC)
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there is a very very minor risk of TTTS for fraternal, but im not entirely sure how that works (just based on room/nutrients all going to one and not the other?) but it definitely isn't the same as when they're sharing the placenta.

I definitely think the problem is the hips widening, and splitting the pelvis at the bottom, this is the best picture of it I've found that describes EXACTLY where the pain is:

GOOD TIMES, babies! ;P Obviously this is going to happen when there are TWO EFFING BABIES INSIDE OF ME, but yeah... it hurts when I get up or flip over, etc. Totally manageable pain, I'm not curled up into the fetal position or anything, it's just annoying.

And thank you!

Date: 2013-02-22 06:29 pm (UTC)
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That's exactly what I"m thinking, too. I didn't know it at the time, but I STILL remember how uncomfortable it was. I want to say that going out for a walk helped, but then this little voice in my head says "are you sure that's how it went down??" LOL It was a LONG time ago.

I do know the hips never went back. Damn birthing things.

Date: 2013-02-22 06:56 pm (UTC)
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Honestly, it probably did help. Strengthening the muscles is a good thing, but when every movement hurts, it's pretty hard to talk myself into going out for a walk.

I looked into the schedule at the base gym for water aerobics (even if I have to modify and do a lot less than everyone else!) but the Bremerton one is closed for 10 months. Thanks, guys. I'd have to go up to Bangor, which still isn't THAT far... and it's free.. but.. yeah. :P

Date: 2013-02-22 07:11 pm (UTC)
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I never thought about water exercises! that's a great idea and I bet it would be SO MUCH EASIER on those joints.
Way to think outside the box !!

Date: 2013-02-24 04:07 am (UTC)
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ha, thanks! now i just need a swimsuit. this is not appealing.

Date: 2013-02-22 05:18 pm (UTC)
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I am so excited to start knitting for them!!! I've got the yarn picked out for their blankies, and I'm going to attempt (for the first time ever) little sweater & hat sets!

Date: 2013-02-22 06:16 pm (UTC)
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eek! new skillz! ;) i am excited to see the end result!

Date: 2013-02-22 09:31 pm (UTC)
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This is so exciting!

Date: 2013-02-22 10:05 pm (UTC)
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And Kyle is officially on leave this month to get things done! Hooray! ;) Then of course the sucky part of "Kyle is back on the boat" happens in 30 days. Wahhh.

Date: 2013-02-23 03:12 am (UTC)
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:D :D :D :D :D :D :D :D

All the smileeeeeys!!

Date: 2013-02-23 10:19 pm (UTC)
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BAAAAABIES! Thank you! :)

Date: 2013-02-24 12:57 am (UTC)
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I'm glad everything is going so well. I have a friend that just started her hospital stay at evergreen because her identical girls are sharing the same sac so I'm glad your girls are don't have that. If you want me to connect you two on fb I will, her c section is scheduled in early April at 32 weeks. Another friend had her boys at 35 weeks naturally so its really a crap shoot and I will think good thoughts for all of you.

And complain away about aches and pain. Its totally ok and wouldny come off as ungrateful. I'd give my li up for either one of my kids but if I couldn't vent about them then I'd explode. You're in for a great journey but let yourself vent, its really healthy. Especially when you aren't getting any sleep. Its how you keep the humor.

I found a cute navy and green sun dress combo by carters that coordinates and thought of you. You should post about how you want to dress them. The dresses were 12- 18 month size so ready for next summer but I tend to not buy small outfits because so many people give you.those sizes. My friends 35 weekers were 5-6 lbers and now at 2 months they are growing out of newborn size so IDK. I guess its a Singleton thing. I also have girls clothing in great condition if you want any hand me downs. Everyone has had boys since Zachary so its nice to have girls on the way!

End rambling, happy Saturday!

Date: 2013-02-24 01:29 am (UTC)
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I heart you!!!!

I have another u/s on Thursday (big anatomy scan, hooray!!!) and everything has thus far looked perfect, so... i really hope it continues to look that way!

And I would hope that some friends who are also struggling know that my bitching about aches/pains aren't ungrateful, but... I also have a friend (who granted has been trying for over a decade) who was only supportive as long as I was also struggling - the second I got my + she has basically ignored me, and when I've been supportive to her and tried to help her, I get shady, snarky, bitchy comments back - it's made me pissy at her (and hello, I did nothing.) but... i've ALWAYS been aware of and supportive of those who are trying and have yet to be successful. I just never want to rub anything in their face, ya know?

And ZOMG those sound super cute!! I don't think I necessarily have a specific "way" I want to dress them, but so far almost all clothes we have are neutral (and almost more "boy") because they've all come from moms of boys.. oops! I figure we'll get lots of girl clothes from everyone else and it will even out. ;) And I'm totally not above hand me downs if you are trying to get rid of things!

Date: 2013-02-25 05:23 pm (UTC)
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I can't imagine how awful that would feel, being rejected by a friend over something you cannot control. I mean, infertility sucks and I wouldn't wish that on anyone. I have no idea what it's like and I pray for the comfort of my friends that go through it. I've always wanted kids and for me it was a long wait to be able to get the green light to start a family. I had to wait through friends getting pregnant and having cute babies and being happy for them but also a bit jealous, so maybe that's how I can empathsize?

IDK, one other way to think about it is that while you two had a good run together as friends, maybe she is more of a fairweather friend, someone that isn't going to be close and that might be ok. For one jealous, jerky friend, you have a bazillion more that are happy and rooting for you and Kyle and the girls. But it's hard to shake that icky feeling so I'll just think good thoughts for your comfort.

Just allow yourself to experience the good and the not so good aspect of pregnancy and parenthood. I find that when I vent about something, I get a lot more people responding with "been there, done that, it sucks and you are doing a good job" support than negativity. I'll be here when they are being insane toddlers with an attitude problem. Oh yeah, they do eventually get mouthy and defiant, just spend 10 minutes with Taylor. That's why they are cute, so that you don't sell them on craigslist.

Can you tell I've had a glorious relaxing weekend? lol

I have a rubbermaid bin full of girls stuff for the first year that I'd be glad to pass on to a good home. They grow out of the small stuff so fast so it's good to have a couple of super cute outfits for pictures and special occassions but until they hit the 12-18 month clothing size, be ready for them to grow out of clothes in 2-3 months for each size. Especially if you are cloth diapering because of the added (awesome) bulge.

I heart you too!!

Date: 2013-02-24 04:05 am (UTC)
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I know what you mean about complaining. I felt the same way because of everyone in our group. It's hard because being pregnant isn't easy and there's a lot to complain about haha.
I'm glad things are going so well for you. I'm going to try my best to make it to your baby shower.

Date: 2013-02-24 04:07 am (UTC)
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i love that the venue i found is at a park and the kids can go play if it is nice, it kinda ended up being perfect (and way cheaper than anywhere else!)... mom / step-mom / etc are going to handle everything else (you know, besides the fact that i told them i hate baby shower games and i picked exactly what ones i want to do, and... i just designed my own invite... ) but... i had to get the ball rolling LOL.

Date: 2013-02-24 04:10 am (UTC)
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also im totally not posting this on fb but is it kinda weird to you that raina keeps posting pictures (her profile pic, her cover pic... her pregnancy announcement pic?!) that dont include aiden AT ALL?


and you know, the second she had the opportunity to do so, she announced how many pounds she has lost since becoming pregnant.


Date: 2013-02-24 05:23 am (UTC)
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Lol. Yes I noticed that too.
It is REALLY strange that Aiden isn't in many pictures... especially the pregnancy announcement.

Date: 2013-02-24 05:25 am (UTC)
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She does/says so many things that boggle my mind. I just don't get it.

Date: 2013-02-24 05:45 am (UTC)
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